All - I am writing to give a brief update on James' MRI as I know many of you have asked how things are going and if we had any results yet.  James was supposed to get this done Monday but it kept getting pushed back due to over-scheduling, etc.  James didn't sleep much last night (translation -> not at all) but fortunately it wasn't due to pain he was just restless.  His steroids are about 3x normal and he took a pretty solid nap in the late afternoon so I wasn't surprised.  I served as his waterboy all night and carried him to and from the bathroom about every hour or two.  King James at his best.  I give this context because I finally flagged our nurse down and asked if we could do his MRI at 4 am this morning.  We were both up anyways and I figured we could beat the crowd and get it over with.

James did amazing... he was a little confused at first when he was getting strapped to the board and put into the machine but got through the entire thing without crying, screaming, or even showing any remote signs of being afraid.  I was very impressed considering he just turned for and an MRI is a little daunting when you can't understand what they heck is going on around you as a little kid.  We got the results this afternoon and everything looks totally normal.  This was a huge relief for us as you can imagine.

We're still stuck here on fluids and some other IV meds but James has been on the up and up.  We're hoping for a great night tonight and a bit more sleep...  and possible discharge tomorrow.  If that doesn't happen, then likely Thursday (but my money is on tomorrow).  James will be moving to a new steroid once we are out of here and off his prednisolone which is also news to our ears.  We've been working towards this for 18 months.  Although he isn't off steroids, getting off prednisolone and onto a less potent one is a very positive step.  We're hoping to handles this with flying colors and we can eventually get him off steroids all together before the end of 2020 (gotta shoot high :-))

Thanks everyone for all the support and thoughts - and also for the great turnout thus far on sign up for the blood drive!  We really appreciate everyone taking the time to sign up to donate - it means a lot of us and I am sure it will to James one day when he is old enough to understand and appreciate all the support he's had throughout this journey.

October has been an up and down month... each time I have been ready to write an update something else changes (either for better or for worse) and I've delayed writing an update for a few days each time as a result.  Unfortunately right now is one of the "for worse times" as we are back in the hospital and admitted back at Lurie's.  I'll get into details on that in a moment.

Rewind to the last few weeks.  James has been having headaches followed by vomiting throughout October which has landed us back at the hospital a few times in the last 3 weeks.  These headaches have come out of nowhere with immediate onset - basically a 180 from feeling great to feeling really, really crappy.  Turns out that each time it has been medication related.  One of the medicines James' takes to suppress his immune system, Tacrolimus, requires a delicate balance to keep in therapeutic range.  Too low and it doesn't do it's job and James graft-versus-host-disease flares up causing skin and other issues.  Too high and it's highly toxic - which is what was occurring each time.  The only way to balance out his dosage is through blood draws (labs) to check his levels, which has to be done at the hospital.  It's kind of a guessing game and hence the need to come back on a regular basis to re-check his labs.  James calls drawing labs "getting poked" and is not a big fan but always handles it like a champ and is super brave.  The hospital uses a butterfly needle to access his veins and it's not a permanent IV that is put in.  They draw 4-5 vials of blood (he has a lot of labs drawn every time because of all his meds, hence a decent amount of blood needs to be drawn) then its done and the needle is out.

Fast forward to this past week and James was feeling really crappy again for the third time in 2 weeks.  Vomiting, sharp stomach pains, etc.  We assumed it was his Tacro level yet again and got him into clinic the next day to check his labs/numbers.  It is standard procedure with any immunocompromised kid feeling sick to check for literally everything under the sun each time (viruses, infections, and so on) and James came back with a positive for Rotavirus.  This is a pretty common virus in kids and it's pretty rough to get through for a regular, healthy kid.  James has actually had it before (during transplant) and it was not fun.  Most kids are vaccinated for Rotavirus at a few months old... James was when he was born but those vaccines were wiped out with his stem cell transplant.  Unfortunately he has not been able to be revaccinated since for this or really anything for that matter because of all the immunosuppressants he is on to control his GVHD.  This has hit James really hard.  Ultimately James was sent home and we were told to monitor him closely... he took a pretty rough turn with a 103.9 fever and no sleep for 2 straight nights along with lots of vomiting etc.  He was exhausted to the point where he couldn't stand or hold his head up much so we got him to the ER and his vitals were not in a great place.  His heart rate was 190+, his respirator rate was about 3x normal, and he was severely dehydrated with about 6-7% bodyweight loss since we were there just 24ish hours earlier.  The doctors worked pretty quickly to get an IV in for fluids, which is always a challenge for James.  He has very small veins and the dehydration makes them almost non-existent.  Getting an IV placed is much harder than the butterfly needles I mentioned earlier and almost always takes a few tries across both arms, which is what happened per usual this time around.

James' vitals are significantly improved and back into a normal range.  James' heart rate around 110 and his oxygenation is near perfect.  Cognitively he has been a bit slower to recover - he has not been as attentive.. not making a lot of eye contact... slower to respond etc.  Rita and I have obviously been concerned about this, especially with how dehydrated James was Friday night.  The doctors would like to do an MRI on his brain to check and make sure everything looks good.  This was supposed to be today, but given it's pushing 5 PM and we've been through this many times I can confidentially say it will be tomorrow at this point.  James just turned 4 so sitting still through an MRI is a tall task.  The last few times he has had to go under anesthesia for this and we're hoping to avoid that this time around if possible but it will be up to James if he's able to handle it or not without being put under.  Those machines are pretty loud and frightening for some adults so I totally understand why it's near impossible to get a kid to sit motionless in there for an extended period of time.

As today as gone on James does seem more alert than he did this morning, so we're optimistic the MRI will be find and this is all residual effect of the Rotavirus.  Because James doesn't have a great way to fight anything due to all his suppressing meds and a lack of ability to mount an internal defense on his own due to being on steroids for a year and half viruses such as this are a much larger challenge for him that it would be for a healthy four year old.

James' is getting sick of the 24x7 IVs, beeping and being bedridden but taking it in stride as much as possible. He is not happy to be here, which is what we want to see as it means he's eager to get better and get out of here.

We'll make sure to update everyone in the next 24-48 hours with more details.  In the meantime, I also wanted to take this moment to please ask everyone to sign up for James' Blood Drive (Click HERE to sign up!).  As many of you know, we held a blood drive in 2019 and had over 250 blood donations in the two day drive (THANK YOU) as well as many sign ups for Be The Match.  Without many, many blood transfusions James would not be with us today.  Times are tough right now for everyone... COVID, jobs, homeschooling, not being able to see your families, you name it... we all have struggles.  This is a free way to give back and no matter how bad life seems for you right now, it's worse for someone else and you can help make it a little better for them.  Blood donations are way down and already challenging in December to begin with.  The drive will be for two full weeks in December... 12/5 though 12/20 and you can visit any Vitalant center you want in either Chicago or Pittsburgh.  Why this week in December?  December 6th is the two year anniversary of James' "re-birth" and stem cell transplant.  There are many people in need, probably more than ever, of blood product at a time when donations are on the decline.  One ask is that if you intend to sign up please do it now rather than waiting so we can plan accordingly and have a good read on resources needed.  AKA don't wait to sign up, do it today... we and others need you.  Please share the sign up site with any many people as possible.  5-10 sign ups a day over the next 60 days = 300-600 donations.  Every single person counts and the only way we can get to those numbers is with your help sharing the message.

Lastly - thanks for all the support.  Appreciate everything more than you know.

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. Amazingly (and not in a good way) only 4% of cancer research funding is dedicated to childhood cancer.  Cal’s Angels is an organization that has helped us/James immensely over the last two years and their mission is to fill in that gap.

Kudos to my sister-in-law Brooke Mulcahy for her fundraising efforts... today is the last day. Consider making a donation BY CLICKING HERE if you’re willing and able...

The final 24 hours of fundraising... anything helps!

Happy 4th Birthday James!
 
That’s right – James turns 4 years old today… he is truly one of the most amazing kids I have ever met, and I am not just saying that because he’s our son (although admittedly I have a TON of bias in that statement J).  James is extremely caring, very smart with a huge vocabulary well beyond his years and simply loves life.  It’s not to say he doesn’t have his moments… I mean he is a four year old… but James is genuinely a great kid and I have no doubt will be just as amazing, compassionate and caring as he continues to get older.
 
Despite some of the challenges James is still facing we absolutely feel grateful and thankful and fortunate that we’re able to celebrate with him today.  He’s faced more adversity in the last 24 months than many of us experience in a lifetime.  As some of you may remember on James’ 2nd birthday a miracle truly happened.  We were celebrating James’ birthday with family, but without James, on the 11th floor at Lurie’s… singing happy birthday, eating cake and taking videos to show him back in his room where he remained on a breathing machine.  Well, he didn’t want to accept that and we had a call from his room during that party that James was ready to give it a go and breath on his own after nearly a month and a half with that machine keeping him alive… he was removed from the ventilator that day and has never seen it since.  That was the ultimate birthday present… hard to top that one.
 
It is hard not to make James’ life story about his illness and obstacles.  We really try to avoid falling into this trap, although it may not seem that way when you read these updates.  Part of the reason for that is we’re writing to keep everyone updated on James’ progress and hence it inherently comes out in these updates that way.  Day-to-day James lives his life just like any other kid… and with just as much energy, if not more, than most.  As anyone with kids his age knows, chasing him around is a full-time job.  He loves his cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, neighbors/friends etc. and REALLY loves his grandmas that care for him every day.  One really positive aspect of the past two years has been James developing an amazing bond and relationship with his grandmas.  That’s easy for me to say since they have basically given up their retirement and large chunks of their lives to help care for him but he wouldn’t change it for the world and looks forward to seeing them single every day.
 
We had a birthday celebration this past weekend in our front yard with immediate family and neighbors.  It was raining, but honestly, I think that made it even more fun for the kids…. A few pictures are attached below.  As you can see, James was in his element and told us many times the next day how much fun he had on his birthday weekend.  Per James, his favorite part of his birthday was "eating candy."
 

In terms of James’ health – things are about status quo.  Our next appointment is in about 10 days and we’re hoping to step down on his steroids at that time to inch back down to where we were a few months ago.  The doctors are really determined to find a way to get James off steroids… they know his current medication regiment isn’t good for him long term, but balancing that with what he needs right now makes it a very challenging balancing act.  We’re really hoping that James can handle further weaning of his steroids without issue and the next 2-3 months will be critical as we work through it.  Avoiding illness is really important as that’s one major factor in what flares up his immune system and causes these bouts of his GVHD rearing its head to occur.  Thank you again to everyone that keeps up with James' story, for your support, and always keeping James in your thoughts and prayers.  We don't say it often enough!
 
So, with that said – to my best friend… happy 4th Birthday.  I love you more than you’ll ever be able to understand and am the luckiest Dad on the planet to have you in my life.  I know your mom feels the same.  As promised, you can have Mike and Ike’s for breakfast and fried chicken for dinner (don’t judge, it’s his birthday).  Looking forward to what this next year brings and we’ll face any obstacles together, but 99% of the time life is going to be great so let’s enjoy it.  Love you buddy.

​All – as usual, it’s taken us much longer than usual to write an update than intended.  You’d think with COVID we would all have more time while working from home etc. but somehow it seems we have less... not sure how that works.  The math doesn’t add up but it sure seems like reality!
 
As many of you know we had a new baby girl, Maeve, join our family and it’s been a fantastic two+ weeks just getting to enjoy life for a while with our newly expanded family.  Little sleep has turned into less sleep… but once you’re at a certain amount of sleep depravity it’s all really the same.  I think Dunkin Donuts stock may have moved a few points the last couple of weeks just on our consumption alone.  I attached two videos to this update: (1) is when James was told he had a baby sister literally minutes after she was born and (2) is when they first met.  James couldn’t be at the hospital due to COVID and Maeve came a bit earlier than expected so it took us 5 days to get her home from the NICU to meet James and the rest of our families.  It was a little hectic at the hospital… after we arrived I had to run outside and draw James’ meds for the next few days on a picnic bench outside since our amazing mom’s were taking him while we waited for the baby to arrive.  After crushing through drawing about 40-50 syringes of various meds I rushed back upstairs and Maeve was here shortly thereafter.  Always an adventure.

Thank you all again for all the positive thoughts and prayers for James over the past few weeks.  We’ve been pretty concerned about James’ AEC and keeping his GvHD at bay.  At the time of the last update, the AEC count was over 5,000 (normal range being below 500).  As a result, we essentially tripled James’ steroids and went way up is dosage on another one of his immunosuppressant drugs, Tacro.  On the good news front his AEC came down to 2,670 the next week (finally) and then decreased again to 1,620 the week after.  Unfortunately, the following week we saw very little movement and it hovered around the same range.  We’re now almost a month and a half out from his med increases and have our next follow-up tomorrow morning.  While hopeful, I am still skeptical (hopefully wrong) that it will be in the normal range.  James’ skin seems to be a bit bumpier lately and I am preparing myself that the AEC may still be high and causing his GvHD to flare a bit, albeit it mildly.  Again, I hope I am wrong and we get to go down on his medications a bit after the clinic visit tomorrow.
 
What does this mean for James?  We go back to where we have been since May of 2019… trying to be patient with the slow steroid wean process and work toward getting James off the many medications that he remains on now 2+ years into this endeavor.  The doctors frequently tell us that stem cell transplant recovery is a delicate balance: trying to wean medications while keeping complications like his chronic GvHD in check.  A few steps forward, and then one or two steps back.  
 
Practically, this means we will continue to have to wait to address James' lack of growth, as there is not much endocrinology can offer while James continues to be on prednisolone (steroids).  This also means we will have to wait to address his hair loss as our dermatologist is concerned the skin GvHD remains active and the introduction of additional medications may exacerbate symptoms.
 
This is frustrating as James will be turning 4 in a few weeks yet is smaller than kids half his age.  In previous updates, we mentioned how James is starting to become more aware of his size and appearance in comparison to other kids his age. Over the past month we have had the first, of what we know will be many, conversations with him about how his body and what it has been through.  He also has made some comments recently about why he doesn’t have hair or eyebrows.  Not the easiest questions to answer but we’re doing our best!  James, being the amazing kid he is, isn't upset but is more curious and just wants an answer to his question.  For now, he accepts the explanation that he was very sick when he was 2, and although he is much better now, his body is still recovering.  He doesn't harp on it and continues to have his usual zest for life.  We hope his joyful energy will always be here, but it is hard not to think of the many challenges he may face as he gets a bit older.
 
Moving forward, we will try our best to be patient with the medication weaning process and are grateful for how well James has been doing since the steroid increase.  He is full of energy and his appetite, while still great (although we know not many almost 4 year olds have the best appetites or variety of food preferences), is much better.  James has been busy playing with friends and having sleepovers and dance parties with his cousins.  His favorite game these days is "Monster Tag", which basically involves anyone chasing him around while roaring like a monster.  Typically, we try to run James around to get him tired for a good night’s sleep but it ends up that we’re the ones doing the most of the running. 
 
I would say “I’ll post an update after the results tomorrow” from James’ labs and visit to Lurie’s, but in true fashion lately I am sure that update will be a few days out (at best).  In any case, we really to truly appreciate all the continued support.  Even though we feel fortunate 99% of the time there is the 1% of the time that catches you off guard and you get down a bit on the whole situation, especially for James’ sake.  If it wasn’t for all of you the 1% would be a much greater number.

​Hello Team James!  We have waited a bit to write an update as this month has included a lot of ups, downs, and unknowns.  While James had a great start to his summer, enjoying strawberry picking, swimming at Grandma Kathy's pool, sleepovers with his cousins, neighborhood play dates and fun at summer camp, July has brought some setbacks.
 
As we mentioned in our last update, we were on track to reduce James' oral steroid (prednisolone) down to a physiologic dose at our clinic appointment on 6/24.  A physiological dose is essentially what his adrenal gland would normally make if he wasn’t on steroids to do it for him.  James has been on steroids to combat his GvHD for about a year and half, and we’ve been told that it takes roughly the same amount of time (another year and a half) for his adrenal glands to kick back in, hence the need to keep him on a small dose in the meantime while his body works through that.  Additionally, we have some shots that we can give him if his body needs it quickly (won’t go into detail into how/when that would occur).  After all this time and James working so hard to get reduce his steroid dosage over the past few months we finally got him down to that dose on 6/24.  We were so excited…only one month until we could potentially move James to a less potent steroid and finally (FINALLY!) start weaning down other medications.  As I stated earlier, we have been working toward this step since early 2018 and were anxious to start tackling other issues (lack of growth being #1 on the list since these steroids have prevented him from growing since then).
 
Unfortunately, as we have experienced in the past, stem cell transplant recovery is not without highs and lows, steps forward and steps back. After the Fourth of July, James started to experience bouts of nausea and headaches, seemingly out of nowhere.  James would be able to run around and play all day, and then within minutes of being his playful, energetic self, he would begin to complain that his head hurt and start vomiting.  With no other associated fever or other symptoms, we began to suspect that James' Tacrolimus (Tacro) levels were off.  You may remember that Tacro is one of the three immunosuppressant drugs (prednisolone and Imbruvica (chemo pill) are the other two) that James has been on to help keep his new immune system in check.  We brought James to clinic on 7/13 after our doctors told us to pause Tacrolimus for 2 days to see if that would help reduce some of his symptoms.  
 
James' Tacro level was higher than expected on 7/13 and the team decided to cut his regular dose in half.  Tacro is a tough one because if it’s too low it doesn’t suppress the immune system enough and if it’s too high it’s (more) toxic to your body, hence the headaches and vomiting.  While this was happening, and possibly due to the pause in Tacrolimus dosing, James' skin GvHD began to flare and he also began to experience more vomiting, diarrhea and overall not feeling like himself.  The doctors also noticed that, while every other lab result has come back with excellent results, one of James' labs has continued to remain abnormal.  
 
The doctors explained that, since we reduced the steroid to the physiologic dose in June, James' AEC or absolute eosinophil count has started to climb.  AEC is a blood test that measures white blood cells called eosinophils.  These white blood cells become active when you have allergies, infections or other diseases.  A normal AEC is between 50-350.  To illustrate, James' AEC number on 7/2 was 840, 7/13 was 1,850 and by 7/17 it was up to 2,800.   The team became concerned that, with the temporary pause in Tacro PLUS weaning of the steroid, James' immune system was not properly checked and it allowed his underlying chronic GvHD to begin to surface.  This manifested itself in lots of tummy issues for James and his skin starting to become drier and bumpier.
 
We introduced Imbruvica a few months ago with the understanding that it would have a similar effect as the Tacro and steroids and hence could help us get off of them.  That may still be the case, but it’s hard mentally giving him this everyday if we’re still pumping all these other drugs into him on top of it and not in substitute of it.  James is too young to understand how to take the pill so we have to break it open while wearing Latex gloves and mix it into his juice cup each morning.  Although you think we’d be used to this by now with the hundreds/thousands of doses of medication James has taken over the last 24 months but this one still gets me.  Every morning I am sitting there mixing a toxic substance into my son’s Paw Patrol or Trolls juice cup with gloves on because it’s not healthy for me to touch it and then sitting there making sure he takes it all down and puts it into his body.  I probably wouldn’t have as hard of a time with it if he could take the pill and just swallow it but it just speaks to the difficulty of all this… you get used to it but it’s still never easy.
 
So... back to the plan.  In order to combat what the team suspects in a GvHD flare, we were instructed to triple James' prednisolone dose on 7/17.  Although we were happy to do anything to relieve James' symptoms, it was a pretty rough blow to kick up the steroids again when we were so close to being off them completely.  Our hopes of moving on to the less potent steroid and beginning to wean off other medications has now been put on the back burner yet again.  As many of you know, the prolonged use of steroids, combined with all he has been through, has dramatically stunted James' growth.  Although we are so grateful that James is every bit the nearly 4-year-old he is when it comes to mental, emotional and social development, physically he is the size of a 2-year-old.  He has started to make comments like “I’m bald” and “I have no eyebrows” once in a while and is also become more aware of his size as he gets a little older.  That is all pretty rough as we don’t want his life to be any harder than it’s already been the last few years.
 
Thankfully, the increase in steroids has helped James' symptoms.  Over the past few days, he has regained his appetite and energy and (fingers crossed) has been able to keep all of his food/liquids down.  Given this change in symptoms, we were fully anticipating that the AEC number would go down when we re-tested James' labs on 7/22.  Not so.....The AEC is now 5,000.
 
Any cancer patients or cancer parents know the stomach knots that come with news that blood cell counts are "abnormal" and "trending in the wrong direction".  This kind of talk always leads me back to where we were two years ago, receiving news that James' white blood cell count was abnormally and dangerously high.  Our stem cell team has reassured us that the rest of James' lab results remain in great ranges and that they do not suspect anything else going on other than his chronic GvHD beginning to flare.  This eases some worry, but we remember how fast things can change, and not in a good way, in the oncology world.
 
For now, we are grateful that James seems to be feeling much better.  He looked so good in clinic that, despite the AEC going up, the team felt safe keeping the steroid at the current level and not increasing it again.  Our plan is to bring James back on 7/29 for repeat labs.   Once again, we will ask all of you, James' army of support, to pray with us that the AEC goes down, and that we can resume our path of medication weaning.  It is extremely hard to be patient with all of this, especially knowing how much James has already had to endure. I try to remind myself to be patient with James' recovery, he really has come so far.  You really are amazing James!  We love you so much! 
 
 

Update from Rita:

Hello friends and family!  We hope everyone is doing well and staying safe.  It has been a busy few months for our family since the last update (all the way back in March- back even before quarantine started!).  Details below. 

Over the past several weeks, we have been closely monitoring James' skin for any signs of GVHD flares.  Thankfully, his system seems to be handling the new immunosuppressant drug (Imbruvica) very well and we have not seen any red or dry patches pop up.  As Dan explained in previous updates, Imbruvica is actually a form of chemotherapy normally used in adults, so we had been worried about potential side effects.  So far, James has had a few bouts of nausea, but we have been able to keep them at a minimum.  We are so thankful James' system has taken to the Imbruvica, as this is key to getting him off oral steroids.  We still aren't seeing any signs of his hair growing back and he has lost most of what he was still hanging on to but he's young enough that he doesn't care.  It is a little difficult with everyone knowing or assuming he is is sick when we're out and about... but there isn't much of that going on with the quarantine lockdown anyways!

Speaking of steroids, we have been looking forward to our next monthly stem cell clinic so the team could evaluate James' skin and continue to taper his steroid dose.  We had our appointment today and are very happy to report that we were able to wean down the dose again... we're SO eager to get him off of them as it's been 15+ months already.  The goal is to have James completely off the higher potency oral steroid by the end of July. and move him to a different (and less strong/potent) steroid simply for maintenance.  This is exciting news for us, as the prolonged steroid use has undoubtedly contributed to James' lack of growth since August of 2018.  

To address this issue, James is now being followed by the endocrinology team at Lurie.  During our visit to Lurie this morning, we went to the endocrinology clinic so James could be weighed and his height could be measured.  The endocrinology team will be following his growth by 6 month intervals to evaluate additional steps we can take to help James catch up to other kids his age.  James also had a bone age x-ray and additional labs done and we are waiting on the results.  We're ager to get the results from the bone age test as it will give us some insight into his bone health and what we should expect going forward.  Once we have these, the endocrinology team can tell us what potential next steps might be (wait and watch, introduce Human Growth Hormone, etc.) to help him grow.

We also got to check in our with lung doctor, Dr. Laguna, during today's visit.  In true James form, he happily demonstrated how his lungs have been functioning by sprinting up and down the clinic hallways :)  Dr. Laguna was thrilled with his energy levels and also emphasized the major milestone he has had- it has been well over one year since James needed to be hospitalized for anything associated with his respiratory system.  Dr. Laguna mentioned this as a solid example that his respiratory system can handle other illnesses (cold, flu) without needing oxygen support.  The plan moving forward will be to continue his prophylactic (preventative) lung medications for 6 months after he is weaned off steroids.  After we reach the 6 month milestone, the team will likely want to do another chest CT to look at his lungs, and if everything looks good, he should be able to come off his lung medications.    

Our doctors also gave us the green light to allow James to go back to a preschool/daycare environment in the fall.  We are really happy they feel he is healthy enough to be in a full-day school environment.  James really loves being around other kids and learning.  All in all, today's visit was very positive and we are hopeful we will get more good news and a more definitive treatment plan from Endocrinology soon.

What else has been James been up to lately?  Enjoying his new house in Lombard!  Our family bought a house in Lombard and moved in on 4/30.  As some of you know, we had been planning to move back in 2018 to be closer to our families, give James more space and have room for our family to grow.  After James got sick, we put our move on hold to focus on his recovery, so this has been a long time coming.  

It has been a hectic few months, but the timing of the move couldn't be better- the three of us in our condo during quarantine could get stifling at times to say the least!!  James is loving having space to play with his toys and to run around.  We also got so lucky and have amazing neighbors with young kids.  While we will miss the city and Southport, it is amazing to see James being able to run around with other kids in the front or back yard.  We also love exploring the walking trails and many parks that Lombard has to offer.  

Having the additional space will also come in handy this fall... we are so excited to share that Baby #2 will be joining us in September!  James is still coming around to the idea of having a little brother or sister, but we know he will be a great big brother.  We cannot wait to meet the new member of the family!

Team James -

I've gone from 0 updates in 2 months to multiple this week. James is doing OK - he started his new medication today which is essentially a chemo-like drug. I think the severity of the drug "got real" when I realized I had to wear latex gloves to handle it... brought me back to reality of what we are putting him James' body. It arrived via FedEx and we gave him the first dose this morning.... will likely know more on how he is handling it over the next week (it's a fairly serious medication so we're hopeful but nervous). We are optimistic that this will help him get better and keep moving forward so looking for the silver lining here!

However, that's not the purpose of my update today; I unfortunately have some not very good news to share. There is another concern that has been weighing on me the past week that I haven't been able to share until today. One of my best friends, Chris Danly, was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer this past week. Chris is a lifelong friend and literally like a brother to me. We played little league baseball together, football in high school, roommates during college, stood in each others weddings and have been lifelong best friends. His family is like my family and vice versa. Chris and his wife Crissy have been incredibly strong since getting the news, as have their two kids Paxton and Palmer.

Chris goes in for surgery next Wednesday to have his gall bladder, spleen and part of his pancreas removed. He will spend the next 5-7 days in the hospital and then 4-6 weeks bedrest while he recovers. We're hoping for more answers in the week following surgery but those are the details we have at this time.

How can you help?

1 - Make a donation by clicking HERE.

They have a battle ahead and a family to care for. Anything you are able to donate would not only help eliminate the financial stress and focus on what's ahead, but also show them how many people have their back (and even those they don't know/have never met)

2 - Keep Chris and his family in your thoughts and prayers.

This isn't a short journey, nor one I would wish upon anyone, let alone a best friend. Feeling for you Chris - stay positive and strong. If anyone can beat this it's you.

​Showing support early is critical so please do what you can if you're able to help

Thanks all,

Dan, James, Rita and the McCarthy Family

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Team James –

This is BY FAR the longest stretch (almost 2 months) that I have gone without writing an update. I recently realized that many have been in the dark on James’ status so my apologies for the extreme delay on getting this out to the group. We’ve had some ups and downs and every time I was ready to write an update there seemed to be details we were waiting on that caused me to delay… and so goes the cycle over and over again.

We’ll start with the good:
Back in January we were able to take James to Blue Harbor Resort in Wisconsin as part of his wish from Cal’s Angel’s. It was truly amazing as James got to spend the weekend with his cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandma’s and live it up for a few days. James is still a little guy because of the medications he is on… about the size of a typical 18-24 month old so he was banned from most of the waterslides but he took it in stride. We were able to sneak him on one or two he wasn’t supposed to be on and break a few rules… gotta start the "rule bending” early in life! PS in the video below James is saying "Thank you Cal's Angel's"

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James was also lucky enough to go to Disney On Ice with his Uncle Ryan and cousin Frank... I think his face hurt from how much he was smiling for 2 straight hours.  They literally hit every one of his favorite characters one after another... Mary Poppins, Mickey Mouse, Lion King, Frozen, Moana, Toy Story... they hit a home run.  This kid is pretty lucky to be living the high life recently with all these great life experiences and we can't thank Uncle Ryan and Tia Ruth enough for taking him.

We thought we were in the clear a few days later but he came down with the flu (I think from me, which made it that much worse) and was running a 102+ temp... so back to the ER. Surprisingly they let us bring James home and monitor him. It took him about 2 weeks to beat the flu but unfortunately that's not where the story ends. As many of you know James has been battling chronic GVHD - originally in his lungs and most recently with his skin. With James' body going into action to fend off the flu his immune system activated, flaring up his GVHD.... GVHD is essentially his immune system attacking his body. The result has been an increased severity of his symptoms that we are having a difficult time getting under control.  As a result James developed a pretty severe rash over his entire body and we have been back at Lurie's every week for the past few weeks.  We more than tripled his steroid dose this past Friday and also increased his tacro (another immunosuppressant). Over the weekend we noticed that James is starting to lose his hair as well; it is thinning out and when you brush his head with your hand or a comb you see it in your palm.  James was back at Lurie's Monday and they are concerned about the escalation of his GVHD and that he isn't seeing much improvement with the med changes (yet).  The doctors also explained that his hair loss is the GVHD attacking his hair follicles, which could potentially be permanent if it gets severe enough. Sigh.

Our plan right now is to add a new drug called Ibrutinib. We're waiting on insurance approvals since it is typically used in adults and not children (and costs a lot of $$ which I am sure delays approvals further) but we may be able to start him on it this week if all goes according to plan.  We're less than thrilled to be adding a 3rd immunosuppressant on top of his current meds... I put a photo of his current daily meds below so you can see what he has to deal with. He takes all of this on his own one after another - pretty amazing for a 3 year old. This new med has some pretty scary side effects (increased chance of cancer, tumors, kidney and liver issues, etc)... one even says it could lead to "a very bad brain problem".... it goes on to explain what that means but that's an interesting way to start a sentence. All that said, James has been on a million drugs with major side effect possibilities so it we aren't reading too much into it, but the more of these you stack up in his body for year(s) the more stressful it gets. We're really hoping this works and quickly as the alternative/next step would be to put a permanent PICC line (IV) in James' arm for another medication that would require us to be at Lurie's two days a week for infusions. The PICC line comes with a whole host of other quality of life issues, especially for a 3 year old, so we aren't even thinking about going there mentally right now.

On a positive note James' skin looks a little better today and I don't think it's optimistic thinking on my end so hoping that continues overnight. He has not been able to sleep because of the itching so looking for a good nights rest tonight. He's happier than even despite all this so that's a blessing in disguise... resilient little guy. Was hoping 15 months after transplant we'd be past talk of more meds and IVs but it's never a straight path despite how much you want it to be.

Keep James in your thoughts but all in all we're doing pretty well... just need a good week and we'll be moving back in the right direction. I also promise not to take a 2 month hiatus from updates again!

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